Headline July 08, 2016/ ''' *UNLOVELY* : Fat -FAILING- Fun '''

''' *UNLOVELY* : 

Fat -FAILING- Fun '''

STUDENTS :  MERIUM, RABO, HALEEMA, & DEE   -in truth about fatness,  I discovered, from my own observations were  *Zero Breakfast Girls*


Privately, I called them *Freezer Myths* As evenings wore on, they would glow with nervous energy, needling just about the whole world, with Laptops open.


Haleema, one great bundle of serious mischief,  setting the tone and texture by trying to  *Hack*Rabo's emails and all accounts. And Rabo, retaliating in cash and kind. Merium, while occasionally putting in a swoon, empired these matches, which grew in size and demography as more actors joined up.


Poor eaters all, they would get in everybody's hair till wee hours of the morning, and then collapse on to their floor mattresses; and then haze on to their universities. Fuelling their day with just Coca Cola  and Chips.


I have just no recall of them ever opening any formal book or for that matter any book. But in brilliance and engineering and social marketing, very few could match them in any subject and that includes their trim and lithe figures.


EVERYONE FAILS SOMETIMES. However, some of us are much harder on ourselves than others when we don't live up to expectations.


This is counterproductive, because harsh self-criticism teaches you nothing about how to do better next time, and lowers self-esteem. It's important, therefore, for harsh self-critics to learn to soften their approach.


To help, we need to find out why the self-critical respond to catastrophically to perceived failure. That's just what a group of researchers in Canada, Germany and the US set out to do.


They asked  161 young adults/students to fill in questionnaires to determine their attitude toward self-compassion, and to identify the personal values -for example, prosperity, fairness and success  -they considered most important.


Next they were asked to imagine two scenarios in which they failed at a task. In one, they had to imagine reacting by being  highly self-critical, and in the other to imagine responding with kindness and  self compassion. They were then asked to rate how they felt after those two scenarios


The results indicated widespread agreement on self-compassion. Everyone felt it was good for personal wellbeing  -and they're right.. Research has shown repeatedly that high levels of self-compassion are associated with greater happiness and stronger resilience.


Those who regard themselves as highly self-critical said that if they were kind to themselves, they feared becoming less competitive, less motivated, less conscientious and more self-indulgent.


*The Keys, it appears, are first, the fear that self-compassion will lead to lower achievement; and second that high achievement is more important than self-care*


It seems that simply learning to be more self-compassionate isn't enough. Those prone to self-criticism need to become aware of the difference between they're realistically capable of achieving and what they expect to achieve.


The aim, according to Carl Rogers, who introduced client-centred therapy in the Fifties, is to decrease the gap between ''self''  who I am  -and  ''ideal self''   -how I wish to be..


In addition, self-critical individuals could try the  ''best friend test''  when they've under performed. Instead of applying their harsh personal standards, they could try responding to themselves as they would to their best friend  *if that friend had just failed*.


After all, most of us treat our friends more generously and realistically than we treat ourselves.  .


So with some research on  *Mind Healing*, that I have unrolled above, let me return once again,  to wind up on the subject : *Why students are so fat!*


A Family Affair :  For a health kick to last with a child it needs to be a whole family thing, Dr. Randell says. When at five---

Her daughter's waist was almost as big her own, she didn't say anything. ''I got rid of all the unhealthy food in the house, started putting two sandwiches and fruit in her lunch box instead of crisps and chocolate-


Walking to school and using the car as little as possible,'' she says. ''Today she is 17 and an active, healthy size 10.''


''It;s important parents don't make it about the child, especially if one is overweight and the others aren't, because, feeling singled out can do psychological damage and lead to eating disorders, even in boys.''


So What Works?  But that low carb plan that worked for you won't necessarily work for your child, says Groom.


''Children need 55 per cent of their energy fromcarbs,'' she says. 'Likewise you can't just cut all their snacks because kids will ask for them and choose something unhealthy the first chance they get.''


Groom recommends education programmes such as MENI] , which looks at the child's thoughts and feelings about food, or the help of dietitian {both available through GPs}


As well as being happier, Scarlett now has more confidence. She is campaigning for healthier food in schools.  more education on what healthy food looks like and less use of food as reward.


She doesn't like the use of the world  ''fat''  either.

''When you speak to someone who has struggled with weight, it's the one word people try to hurt you with,'' she says.


It's the emotional effects Scarlett loves most. ''I always loved going to dance class and now I'll put myself out there much more than I used to,'' she says.


''Before that, a little part of my brain would say: ''You're going to be teased if you dance like that.''  Now, I would never think I can't do something just because of my size.''


With respectful and loving dedication to all the Students, Professors and Teachers of the world. See Ya all on !WOW!   -the World Students Society and !E-WOW!  -the Ecosystem 2011:


''' Brat Pack '''

Good Night and God Bless

SAM Daily Times - the Voice of the Voiceless